• Your profile will say pending indefinitely: but it doesn’t mean you’re not on The Love List! You are all set once you make your profile via the Welcome Email that you receive after signing up.

  • The best way to get involved immediately is to RSVP to an event under “events” on jointhelovelist.com. We put together curated matchmaking events based on your profile, and one-on-one matchmaking.

  • At The Love List, discretion and quality are at the heart of everything we do. Each applicant goes through a multi-step vetting process designed to ensure that every member shares our values of authenticity, integrity, and genuine readiness for a meaningful relationship. We vet via background checks, team calls upon luxury matchmaking onboarding sessions, and by meeting our members IRL at events.

  • Our founder, Alexa, has spent years building community. She met her partner through a party she attended, and we believe in the power of connections made in real life, not virtually.

  • The Love List does not offer refunds on services, including our matchmaking programs, enhancements, or events.

    If you are unable to attend a scheduled event, you may transfer your ticket to a future event by emailing support@jointhelovelist.com at least 24 hours in advance.

    We are committed to providing an exceptional experience, and this policy ensures we can continue to deliver the highest quality service to all of our clients.

  • This is for anyone in New England looking for a new way to date.

  • Please review our privacy policy here.

  • Originally from Mansfield, Alexa is a 27-year-old serial entrepreneur who is the founder and CEO of the #1 customizable microphone cover company, Chief Swag Officer.

    She used to host a show called Fearless Everyday on Radio Disney, and hosts a weekly newsletter and podcast called Dare To Be Fearless now.

  • We have a variety of men and women on our list who are between ages 40-65, so yes!

  • A curated experience with vetted people at different locations across Connecticut.

  • Following our first event in Old Saybrook, three matches have been reported to our team and countless friendships.

  • Men: we suggest you wear jeans/slacks, a cool pair of kicks or loafers, and a nice shirt.

    Women: Wear something feminine that feels authentic to you—comfortable, confident, and you. Our events are relationship-focused and respectful, so there’s no pressure to dress for a one-night vibe.

  • Interested in helping with future events/social media and content? Email support@jointhelovelist.com

  • We’re not traditional, certified matchmakers—and that’s by design. Instead of following the old-school, one-size-fits-all approach, we’ve developed a method that’s modern, community-driven, and highly effective.

    Our process focuses on bringing together people with genuine compatibility, using real preferences, values, and lifestyle factors (not just surface-level traits).

    The results speak for themselves: our members consistently tell us that our method feels more natural, fun, and successful than what they’ve tried elsewhere. While we don’t call ourselves “professional matchmakers,” our approach works—because it’s built around what people are actually looking for today.

  • Hang tight! We review applications on a rolling basis and carefully match people behind the scenes for our experiences. You’ll be receiving an event invite soon!

  • Please email your photo and email to support@jointhelovelist.com with the email you’ve submitted with.

  • We want you off of our platform and on your wedding registry. Just make sure to tell your friends about us!

  • Once you apply to The Love List under “apply”, check your inbox! If you haven’t found an email from The Love List, check your spam or promotions. Now you can officially start applying for events and matchmaking and edit your profile at any time.

  • Contact The Love List here.

  • The Luxury Onboarding credit is $200, and gets applied to a package following your meeting with our matchmaker.

  • Please apply under “contact us”.

  • Your ticket fee will bounce back to you within 24-48 hours.

  • Once you apply to The Love List under “apply”, check your inbox! If you haven’t found an email from The Love List, check your spam or promotions. Now you can officially start applying for events and matchmaking and edit your profile at any time.

  • Our matchmaking packages guarantee one to four plus matches. If you’re only interested in events or our weekly newsletter, you can connect with singles who are highlighted on The Love List newsletter, or connect with more people via the Love List Facebook group.

  • Your matchmaking package includes a specific number of curated introductions. Because significant time, research, outreach, screening, and evaluation are invested into every match presented, any introduction offered by The Love List counts toward your package allocation, regardless of whether you choose to pursue the introduction.If you elect to decline a match prior to meeting, that introduction will still be considered one of the introductions included within your membership package. Our team carefully vets and reviews every potential match to ensure they align with the preferences, goals, and criteria discussed during your onboarding process. We ask clients to place trust in the matchmaking process and remain receptive to thoughtfully selected introductions.Should you decline multiple introductions, your package may be considered fulfilled once the number of introductions included in your membership has been reached. However, if we encounter an exceptional candidate whom we believe would be particularly well-suited to you, we may choose to reach out in the future at our discretion.