• The Love List began with a women’s group Alexa Curtis launched in January 2025. After seeing how many incredible women were looking for real connections, she started reaching out to men to make thoughtful introductions. Those early matches took off—and The Love List was born.

  • The best way to get involved immediately is to RSVP to an event under “events” on jointhelovelist.com. We put together curated matchmaking events based on your profile, and one-on-one matchmaking.

  • At The Love List, discretion and quality are at the heart of everything we do. Each applicant goes through a multi-step vetting process designed to ensure that every member shares our values of authenticity, integrity, and genuine readiness for a meaningful relationship. We vet via background checks, team calls upon luxury matchmaking onboarding sessions, and by meeting our members IRL at events.

  • Our founder, Alexa, has spent years building community. She met her partner through a party she attended, and we believe in the power of connections made in real life, not virtually.

  • The Love List does not offer refunds on services, including our matchmaking programs, enhancements, or events.

    If you are unable to attend a scheduled event, you may transfer your ticket to a future event by emailing support@jointhelovelist.com at least 24 hours in advance.

    We are committed to providing an exceptional experience, and this policy ensures we can continue to deliver the highest quality service to all of our clients.

  • This is for anyone in New England looking for a new way to date.

  • Please review our privacy policy here.

  • Originally from Mansfield, Alexa is a 27-year-old serial entrepreneur who is the founder and CEO of the #1 customizable microphone cover company, Chief Swag Officer.

    She used to host a show called Fearless Everyday on Radio Disney, and hosts a weekly newsletter and podcast called Dare To Be Fearless now.

  • We have a variety of men and women on our list who are between ages 40-65, so yes!

  • A curated experience with vetted people at different locations across Connecticut.

  • Following our first event in Old Saybrook, three matches have been reported to our team and countless friendships.

  • Men: we suggest you wear jeans/slacks, a cool pair of kicks or loafers, and a nice shirt.

    Women: Wear something feminine that feels authentic to you—comfortable, confident, and you. Our events are relationship-focused and respectful, so there’s no pressure to dress for a one-night vibe.

  • Interested in helping with future events/social media and content? Email support@jointhelovelist.com

  • We’re not traditional, certified matchmakers—and that’s by design. Instead of following the old-school, one-size-fits-all approach, we’ve developed a method that’s modern, community-driven, and highly effective.

    Our process focuses on bringing together people with genuine compatibility, using real preferences, values, and lifestyle factors (not just surface-level traits).

    The results speak for themselves: our members consistently tell us that our method feels more natural, fun, and successful than what they’ve tried elsewhere. While we don’t call ourselves “professional matchmakers,” our approach works—because it’s built around what people are actually looking for today.

  • Hang tight! We review applications on a rolling basis and carefully match people behind the scenes for our experiences. You’ll be receiving an event invite soon!

  • Please email your photo and email to support@jointhelovelist.com with the email you’ve submitted with.

  • We want you off of our platform and on your wedding registry. Just make sure to tell your friends about us!

  • For profile updates, please email support@jointhelovelist.com with your requested updates.

  • Contact The Love List here.